There's a lot of noise out there. Lots that want our kids' attention.
Who will point the way when there are so many paths to take?
I am a Christian. I look to the scripture for what it says it is: a lamp to my feet, a light to my path. Sometimes the Bible is confusing as there are many thoughts about how to interpret. Understood.
Yet, there are some things that are very plain. Work with those things.
Parents have a significant role given by God. While there are wonderful resources available in the form of "professionals" who have credentials, you... you are your child's best counselor, advisor, and teacher. Somehow, moms have a keen sense in these things and it's there for a reason!
Our job is to point the way. It may not be our way. You will find that your older children will and must grow into maturity through making choices that you may not agree with. My goal has not been for my kids (18+) to do what I tell them and distance myself from them in any way, shape, or form because of their decision.
Did the Prodigal Son's father do that? No. He not only allowed his son to decide, but his heart was continually toward him. That's how God is with us. If we display anything less than this to our kids or others, what does that say about us?
In some Christian circles, it is expectant that if we teach a certain way that we should naturally see the desired results. I wish life was that predictable. It isn't.
We keep pointing the way. And in the distance is the cross. That is where we always point them. How they get there or if they get there is not up to us. We present to them... not demand from them... what is worth setting in their sights.