Some moms are so efficient that every "i" is dotted and every "t" is crossed. At the end of the day they feel a sense of accomplishment.
Some moms are less efficient and more time is spent finding that misplaced "i" and "t".
And some moms didn't even know there was an "i" or "t".
We come in quite an array of colors, shapes, and sizes don't we? There is no one-size-fits-all.
Don't spend time trying to be someone else. We can get ideas from each other and implement tried and true methods. But in the end, do you have your child's heart?
I started out as an i-dotter and a t-crosser. Somewhere into 5-6 kids it broke in me. It didn't crush me since I am who I am and God wired me this way. What broke was the incessant need and burden I placed upon myself to be perfect. What your kids do cannot be more important than who they are.
Routines, order, and structure is good. But so is chilling when a day or two goes by and there are undone chores.
(I cannot speak to moms who are on the other end of the scale but feel free to comment here on your struggle and/or success in finding balance)
In the end, I think we place upon ourselves more than God does.
If flexibility isn't your thing and you can't remember the last time you laughed, then MAKE yourself go outside today and play in the snow with your kids!
If you are too flexible and find you are easily distracted, then MAKE yourself get that laundry done!
Bottom line, you are the right mother for your children. You know what is best for them. But don't be afraid of some tweaking. : )